I’ve heard this too many times, that kids need to be bullied to learn to deal with difficult people. That’s bullsh!t. I have yet to meet one parent who has actively introduced bullies to their children. If it’s that important, I think it would be a factor when people choose a school. ‘I can’t send my kid to XYZ School – there just aren’t enough bullies!’ Schools can be rated on how likely a child is to be bullied and all these parents who are so concerned about learning to deal with difficult people can send their children there in droves. Actually, parents who really care about it should just cut out the middle man and bully their owns kids. Why leave it to chance?
I haven’t been bullied in YEARS. It’s not a normal part of adult life. In adult life, bullying is harassment. It can get you fired from a job. It can get you sued. It is not acceptable and yet there are people who believe it is a necessary lesson that children need to learn though most never do. This is one of the most half-assed, non-critically considered arguments that non-homeschooling parents come up with as an excuse to not consider a viable alternative.
Bullying in schools is not normal. It’s bad parenting being spread from the bully to other children. Ask a parent if their child can go over a bully’s house to spend time with the parents and the answer will be a resounding ‘No.’ I’m not saying at all that kids who bully are bad – they are victims, and they’re often worse off than any kid they bully. But it is not normal by any means. Children can learn to handle a jerk when they are good & ready, and that’s different for every child.
This goes with the fallacy of socialization. Sticking 30 kids who are learning to be social together & then asking them to sit down & be quiet is pointless. It’s completely and utterly antisocial. When I want social interaction, I don’t go to someplace and sit quietly next to other people without talking to them. Socialization in schools is the biggest crock of sh!t reason to school out there. I’d buy the socialization argument if recess were 6 hrs long so kids could actually practice being social. (and being bullied of course…)